3 Steps to Effortlessly Heal Trauma - by Peter Bedard, C.Ht.
This month’s blog by my friend and colleague, Peter Bedard. When Peter and I met, we were excited to find kindred spirits with similar intuitive perspectives on the nature of trauma. Peter’s wonderful book “Convergence Healing,” outlines his unique intuitive methods of working with trauma for self-healing. Medical Intuition is designed to reveal how trauma can impact health and well-being. We knew we had to find a way to bring our work together to help people access innovative ways to heal deeply in body, mind and spirit. Stay tuned for enlivening workshops with powerful intuitive skills and healing exercises, coming soon!
The experience of trauma is one of too much too fast. Something happens in our lives that creates an experience of overwhelm and emotions that were meant to be felt and flow right through us somehow get stuck. From personal experience, trauma is when a memory, and the physical feelings around that memory, is still happening. It’s the physical experience of loss, pain, suffering, overwhelm, fear, etc. that is trapped inside of us. It’s the 95 year old man who is still angry at something that happened when he was 5 years old or your best friend who still gets flushed and furious when reminded of a break-up that happened a decade ago. Trauma is a memory that hasn’t found its place in the history of your life story. In other words, it is an experience that happened in the past that no matter how long ago it happened it is still happening within you now. We feel that experience not as a memory but as if it was currently occurring in this moment and we feel it with every sense of our being.
When we hold onto trauma we often invent very creative and even subconscious methods for coping with this experience. It’s as if we learn to manage and push away the trauma but it’s always hanging around in the background. We learn to ignore it and act as if it isn’t there so It sits and waits for that moment when someone pushes a “button” within us and that button triggers a reaction that is often uncontrollable and sometimes even a surprise to ourselves. It just waits seemingly dormant within for an opportunity to explode out of us and be released. Even then, as it rips through us, it just never quite lessens and at times it may even build up strength.
Here are some easy things to do to lessen the strength of that memory and stop managing the trauma so that it can finally be released:
1) Make it your friend – When you can step back and redefine your relationship with the ghost of trauma past you actually take an important step towards reducing the power of the trauma. You can start doing this by treating the “bad memory” as a friend that has been wounded. Instead of burying the pain in denial or fear practice loving compassion towards the pain itself. We are always talking to ourselves so why not talk to this old memory in a way that is loving and kind?
2) Understand how it exists within you –Your brain is recording every second of the event using all your senses (color, temperature, texture, sound, smell, taste). Become aware of how you recorded that moment and ask yourself the question, “What is the color, sound, temperature, texture, taste, and even smell of that moment?” This is how the experience has been living inside of you.
3) Teach it something new – Now that you understand how your brain recorded that moment in time, see if you can remember the experience with a contrary color, temperature, etc. Replace the descriptive experience with a contrary one. If the trauma was rough, bring in a sense of smooth as you practice remembering it again. If it was dark and heavy, bring in a sense of a brilliant color and the lightness of a feather and watch the old understanding start to dissolve away.
Working in this way allows your brain to understand the moment as a true memory and no longer as an experience that is currently happening. Practice this over and over again until the original experience no longer has a grip on you. Eventually, you will be able to look back at even the darkest moments of your past and literally see them differently.
With a MA in consciousness studies and his extensive training in hypnotherapy and alternative health, Peter Bedard, MA, C.Ht., RsPC, has helped thousands of people overcome pain and the fearful shadow it has cast over their lives. Peter has a thriving one-on-one private practice, and he gives talks and workshops around the world. He lives in Los Angeles, California. His book, “Convergence Healing, Healing Pain with Energetic Love”, is available at Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Kindle, iBooks, Indy Bound, Simon & Schuster and fine book stores. www.ConvergenceHealing.com
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